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8 Positive Mindsets to Boost Your Creativity
Nov 20, 2018

Do you often wonder why you were not born with a paintbrush in your hand?

Do you envy those who can create art after art after art?

Do you imagine yourself launching your solo art exhibit or taking part in an art show alongside acclaimed artists?

Do you wish you were creative yourself?

Paintbrush. Art. Shows. They are tools of artistry that paint limiting images of creativity.

Defining Creativity

What really is creativity?

How is it to be creative?

Can you be one?

According to Robert E. Franken, author of Human Motivation (1994), creativity is

“the tendency to generate or recognize ideas, alternatives, or possibilities that may be useful in solving problems, communicating with others, and entertaining ourselves and others.

He cited three reasons why people need to express creativity:

  • To solve problems;
  • To communicate ideas and values with others;
  • To achieve novel, varied, and complex stimulation.

8 Positive Mindsets About Creativity

Many myths or misconceptions surround creativity. Martin Zwilling, Founder and CEO of Startup Professionals, discusses this in detail in his article “10 Myths about Creativity You Need to Stop Believing Now” at Entrepreneur.

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” ~Rumi, The Essential Rumi

These ways of thinking need to get busted, and what better way than changing your mindset.

Here are interesting ideas about creativity to address these myths and misconceptions:

1. Creative expression varies from person to person

Creativity is not only about arts, crafts or hobbies. It permeates all areas of your life – how you think, manage situations, create solutions to problems, and deal with life in general. You can be creative without necessarily creating with your hands.

Here are a few ways to express creativity differently:

  • Whip up new recipes by imagining what ingredients work together and picturing out how to cook them;
  • Do a makeover or transformation of your jeans by hand-painting, cutting the legs to turn to shorts, creating a hobo bag instead of dumping it to the rubbish bin or donation box;
  • Sew a hole in your favorite dress or shirt and put a patch or flower fabric with a button on top of it;
  • Concoct a perfumed deodorant from natural and readily-available ingredients in your kitchen.

For finished colored pages, read here about creative ways to enjoy them more.

2. Creativity is “out of the box” thinking

Creativity is a way of looking at a situation from a new angle, vantage point, thinking process, or perspective, to reach a solution. It is thinking, doing, and feeling differently as others do. It means veering from the usual, traditional or commonplace.

3. Creativity is inherent in everyone

When you were born, you didn’t start out with words. You worked with images and your creative imagination to make sense of the world. Creativity is in you. It may lie dormant but it’s there.

4. Creativity is a problem-solving tool

Creativity is a tool to deal with situations, problematic or not.

You may think up of solutions creatively by asking:

  • How come?
  • What if?
  • What about?
  • Why not?

5. Creativity can be learned

I didn’t know much about creating coloring designs in 2014 but I vowed to learn the creative and technical aspects of doing it.

You, too, can learn to be creative… or learn the tools to pursue your creativity. Have confidence that you can do it.

6. Creativity is never lost

You think you lack creativity when you became a lawyer, doctor, accountant, investigator, police, or politician. These are professions that demand logic and objectivity.

However, just because you are in a strongly left-brain run environment doesn’t mean you can’t be right-brained, which is the realm of the creative brain. You can be both. That’s how brilliant doctors who try novel ways of treatment are able to perform surgery much faster as usual, or they are able to discover breakthrough healing modalities.

Also, just because you think you have not been doing creative stuff since a child of six means that you’ve lost your creativity. Your creativity stays with you and is never lost. Try using your non-dominant hand to doodle or write anything. Try the opposite of what you’re used to doing. Soon, you’ll have it back.

7. Creativity is a choice

Decide to spend an hour a day to perfect that stroke is a choice. Practice writing fiction every day. Keep a daily doodling habit. These are creative expressions and doing them is a choice.

8. Creativity is vital to life

Picture a boiling kettle with a closed lid that has no outlet. When it can no longer take the pressure from heat, what happens? It would explode.

It’s pretty much like blocked creativity. If you don’t let it go, soon you become irritable, lethargic, lifeless, stiff, bored, tired, and sick.

If you keep holding back your creativity for whatever reason, you must stop now. Sing, dance, write poems, doodle, do lettering or calligraphy, or think up a new recipe. Liberate your creative sparks. Doing so would keep you well and alive for a long time.

Tips to Relax Rigid Mindsets on Creativity

Here are simple ways to boost your creativity:

  • Be like a child. Creativity is a child's domain and an easy way to get there is through play. 
  • Embrace your creativity. Denying it blocks your creative juices.  
  • Play with ideas. Brainstorm. Ignore the notion of right or wrong. There should be none. Even the ridiculous are welcome. You never know just what you end up with.
  • Make room for new ways of thinking and doing. Think outside the box. Cultivate new values. Develop new mindsets. Create new habits. Pursue new ways. 
  • Go beyond your comfort zone. Enjoy your discomforts. Try new, different, untried and unconventional thoughts, ways or solutions. 
  • Pursue creative activities that you enjoy. Then, pursue them.

Talk is cheap. Action speaks louder than words.

What are you waiting for?

Go, be creative!

How to Deal with Self-Doubt in 7 Ways
Nov 07, 2018

Are You Ever Good Enough?

Many times, you doubt yourself.

You doubt if you can be a good parent to your kids, a great partner to your spouse of 20 years, a competent employee to your boss of 12 years, or an excellent mentor to your repeat clients. 

Do you have what it takes? 

Do you measure up? 

What do people say about you? 

Are they satisfied with your performance? 

What if?

You doubt if you’re ever good enough. It feels like you’re always short – shorty, short-sighted, short-handed, stopped short or short-changed.

Anything you do is always wanting. 

At the end of the day, you always feel empty, deprived, down-and-out, alone, lonely, frustrated and dissatisfied.

It’s because you doubt yourself and why is that? For reasons only you can tell. If you don’t know what causes your constant self-doubt, perhaps it’s time to look inside and think through it. Otherwise, self-doubt would be a recurring thief that would rob you of your confidence and self-esteem.

7 Ways to Deal with Self-Doubt

There are many ways to deal with self-doubt. Here are some of them:

Tip #1 - Accept yourself

Embrace who you are, warts and all. Who you are is who you are. You can never be somebody else. If you deny yourself of your own skin, who would be there to accept the real you? If there’s something you owe yourself, it is self-acceptance. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Tip #2 - Believe in yourself 

Who you are today is a living person. You breathe, laugh, cry, buckle down under pressure, worry, question, get back up, fight, grow, change, and do unexpected things. Who you are now won’t be that person today, yesterday nor tomorrow. I believe in who you are and the world would believe you. 

Tip #3 - Trust 

Trust that everything will be taken care. There's a reason for everything and it would unfold at the right time.

Tip #4 - Listen

Listen - to others, your intuition or gut feel, the universe. There is so much to learn from. Wisdom abound but you have to tune in to the right frequency. Do this by silencing your inner voice, reaching out to others, praying and meditating, seeking to understand, and expressing gratitude. 

Tip #5 - Act

Take action. If you do nothing, how can you expect things to change? Unless you can move things with telekinesis, a fork or spoon won’t move to feed you nor will you reach your destination if you don’t walk. Today, set your goals or objectives, plan ahead or picture the steps to achieve them, switch off your inner critic, and act. Easy to say but may be hard to implement. Still, you can do it as long as you take action.

Tip #6 - Expect the best

Think of the good. Instead of thinking negative or predicting bad things happening, decide to be an optimist instead. As long as you’re alive, strive to be better and expect great changes happening.

Tip #7 - Celebrate yourself

Be happy for yourself. Celebrate your breakthroughs, achievements, and victories, no matter how big or small. Affirm how awesome you are!  

And, oh, don’t forget to do journaling to let these ideas slide through. 

How about you, folks? 

When self-doubt strike, how do you deal with it? 

Do you buckle down, sway gracefully, or face it head on? 

What’s your story? We’d love to hear yours. 

8 Super Simple Ways to Manage Overwhelm
Oct 30, 2018

When you're experiencing overwhelm, how can you possibly manage it?

When you feel like drowning in a tsunami of various stuff – events, responsibilities, people, emotions, plans, condition, and expectations – what do you do?

How do you deal with it?

Regardless of your stature, situation or circumstance, you go through this.

How did you deal with it? Did you buckle down in the face of these challenges? Did you fight or run away?

Here are ways that you can deal with overwhelm as sanely as possibly:

First, accept it.

Life is not perfect. Overwhelm does happen to good or bad people, young and old alike, male or female… everybody. No one escapes it so embrace it. It makes life easier. Then, take it from there.

Second, relax.

Take things in stride. This allows you to be aware of what’s going on. It buys you time to notice what’s important and essential or urgent and life-changing and puts you back in the proper mental frame to respond accordingly.

 

 Third, figure out what’s next.

Think: What would you do next? Do you restrategize?

Here are possible steps that you may take:

  • Create a list – what needs to be done, what you want to get done, and nice if done
  • Delegate
  • Purchase advanced tools
  • Study
  • Negotiate
  • Change plans
  • Take a sabbatical leave
  • Travel.

Sometimes, the next best step is to do nothing at all.

Fourth, clean your clutter.

When your world feels chaotic, create order outside. Clean up your workspace, kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, car, stockroom, bookshelf.

It does wonders to feel clean!

Fifth, be real.

Ground your choices on reality.  It doesn’t make sense to simply ignore a deadline or to pretend that a complex piece of work can be done in 15 minutes. Make allowances.

Sixth, revise your commitments.

Promises are not made to be broken, but some need to be revised. Act promptly to revise commitments that you cannot or will not keep.

Seventh, first things first.

Take time to exercise, pray, meditate, and “defrag” no matter how busy you are. When you do these things first thing each day, you’ll notice yourself transform into a more joyful, resourceful, and resilient person.

Eight, breathe.

First, last, and always, let a rising bubble of anxiety be your reminder to breathe.

Let’s toast to a short break and be back refreshed!