Many times, you doubt yourself.
You doubt if you can be a good parent to your kids, a great partner to your spouse of 20 years, a competent employee to your boss of 12 years, or an excellent mentor to your repeat clients.
Do you have what it takes?
Do you measure up?
What do people say about you?
Are they satisfied with your performance?
You doubt if you’re ever good enough. It feels like you’re always short – shorty, short-sighted, short-handed, stopped short or short-changed.
Anything you do is always wanting.
At the end of the day, you always feel empty, deprived, down-and-out, alone, lonely, frustrated and dissatisfied.
It’s because you doubt yourself and why is that? For reasons only you can tell. If you don’t know what causes your constant self-doubt, perhaps it’s time to look inside and think through it. Otherwise, self-doubt would be a recurring thief that would rob you of your confidence and self-esteem.
There are many ways to deal with self-doubt. Here are some of them:
Tip #1 - Accept yourself
Embrace who you are, warts and all. Who you are is who you are. You can never be somebody else. If you deny yourself of your own skin, who would be there to accept the real you? If there’s something you owe yourself, it is self-acceptance. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Tip #2 - Believe in yourself
Who you are today is a living person. You breathe, laugh, cry, buckle down under pressure, worry, question, get back up, fight, grow, change, and do unexpected things. Who you are now won’t be that person today, yesterday nor tomorrow. I believe in who you are and the world would believe you.
Tip #3 - Trust
Trust that everything will be taken care. There's a reason for everything and it would unfold at the right time.
Tip #4 - Listen
Listen - to others, your intuition or gut feel, the universe. There is so much to learn from. Wisdom abound but you have to tune in to the right frequency. Do this by silencing your inner voice, reaching out to others, praying and meditating, seeking to understand, and expressing gratitude.
Tip #5 - Act
Take action. If you do nothing, how can you expect things to change? Unless you can move things with telekinesis, a fork or spoon won’t move to feed you nor will you reach your destination if you don’t walk. Today, set your goals or objectives, plan ahead or picture the steps to achieve them, switch off your inner critic, and act. Easy to say but may be hard to implement. Still, you can do it as long as you take action.
Tip #6 - Expect the best
Think of the good. Instead of thinking negative or predicting bad things happening, decide to be an optimist instead. As long as you’re alive, strive to be better and expect great changes happening.
Tip #7 - Celebrate yourself
Be happy for yourself. Celebrate your breakthroughs, achievements, and victories, no matter how big or small. Affirm how awesome you are!
And, oh, don’t forget to do journaling to let these ideas slide through.
How about you, folks?
When self-doubt strike, how do you deal with it?
Do you buckle down, sway gracefully, or face it head on?
What’s your story? We’d love to hear yours.